About twenty years ago, when I was doing some early research at UT Dallas, my advisor gave me some sage advice. Not about school, but about relationships.
He shared with me that we get so busy sometimes, wrapped up in our careers and own interests, that we don’t make time for others.
It is simple advice, but he said whenever his wife asked him to be there, he was there for her.
I’ve applied that simple lesson to my life since then, just to be there for others, and it is one of the best things I’ve ever done. We do, of course, need to be able to say no when we have to say no, but being there is a wonderful way to share your love with someone.
Ironically, it’s often much easier to be there for someone than to resist getting involved. Often, they only need to know you are there for them. That in itself says you love them and will care for them in their time of need.
Likewise, when someone is there for us, in whatever way, we feel comforted to know we are not alone and can share in life’s burdens and joys.
So, next time somebody asks you for a small favor or a little help, try to say yes if it will help them take another step forward. It’s a wonderful way to live and a wonderful way to love!