Kink Culture

humansexualitymap

Franklin Veau’s Human Sexuality Map is a great view of the wide world of sex play. You may purchase the poster on www.humansexmap.com.

The kink community today, not unlike the LGBT and Polyamory communities, is a culture coming into its own and likewise faces its own levels of stigma and oppression.  Since I began my career in professional counseling, it has been my intention to be welcoming and inclusive and that is no different in regard to kink.  I’m happy to support BDSM, Leather and Fetish cultures.  I’m not an expert, but I want folks to feel safe and accepted when they come.

Also, I think we need to recognize that with supporting statistical surveys, the intense popularity of kink movies and novels demonstrates that kink is not the stigmatized disorder many sexologists, past and present, have deemed it.  In fact, many of the sexual rigidities we have seen are really based in shame or fear.

I’m happy to find that we even have Kink Guidelines (2019) for clinicians now, published by the Kink Guidelines Project.

My hope is for my clients that practice kink to feel proud of themselves and be sexually healthy.  I’m happy to help with any of these kinds of issues:

  • Coming out to self and others
  • Building self-esteem and confidence
  • Negotiation of roles, ethics and agreements
  • Control and consent issues
  • Working on boundary issues and scene play
  • Trust, openness and respect
  • Not going “too far”, triggering and honoring safe words/symbols

A few resources in the Dallas area:

I am a member of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.  You might like to take a look at their resources here.  Also, professions may wish to see the KGP.